I’m Learning to Deal with Comments About My AFOs
“Are those rattlesnake protectors?”
I am getting used to the stares and comments about my ankle-foot orthoses (AFOs), but this one kind of threw me for a loop. I just looked at the gentleman for a minute before I realized he was talking about my Arizona Braces. My not-so-thought-out response was, “No, they help me walk.” And that ended that. I probably should mention that we were in South Dakota, where rattlesnakes are common.
I did not think he was being mean. He probably thought the comment was funny. Maybe in a few years, I can look back and laugh about it. Sometimes, however, I wish people would think before they speak. The statement may seem harmless to the speaker, but they should try to think about how the other person might feel. I know I should not be upset by this, and I can’t really explain why it bothered me.
I have Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease (CMT) and wear AFOs for ankle stability and drop foot. As you may know, I have a complicated relationship with my AFOs. I am slowly getting used to the idea of braces. I know they help and I know it is safer for me to walk while wearing them. They keep my ankles from rolling and keep me from falling. I know all of this, but other people’s comments make it difficult to accept them.
Perhaps the man’s remark made me think about the things I could not do while on vacation. I try very hard not to focus on those things. Maybe it bothered me because I could not take the cavern tours with my son. I was grateful we had traveled with friends, so the two teens were able to do the tours together. It is hard sometimes to realize that there are just some things I can’t do, no matter how much I want to. The caverns are not accessible, so they would not be safe or easy for me to walk through. On the other hand, there was a ton of stuff that I did do.
I am learning to accept the limitations I have due to CMT and the new needs that arise because of it. Most days, I try to focus on all I am able to do. It is important to me to remain as positive as I can, because I know my son is watching and learning how to deal with CMT from me. I also know he is watching how I react to people’s comments and stares. Therefore, I try to respond politely, sometimes offering information about CMT and sometimes giving just a short answer.
I guess the next time someone asks me what those things on my feet are, I can say that they are rattlesnake protectors.
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