Having a Child Was the Right Decision for Me

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“Would you have had children if you knew they would have Charcot-Marie-Tooth?”

I have heard this question before from friends and acquaintances when I told them about Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease (CMT).  When I am asked, my answer is always the same and without hesitation: yes. I would have had my son even if I knew ahead of time that he would have CMT.

Before deciding to become pregnant, I talked to other women with CMT to find out about their experiences. My doctor was open about the chances of my child inheriting CMT from me. I have type 1A, which means there was a 50 percent chance of passing it on.

After some thought, I decided it was worth the chance.

The decision was relatively easy for me, even though I knew there was no cure for CMT. I knew that we could only treat the symptoms and that the severity varied from person to person, even within families.

CMT causes muscle weakness, balance issues, and trouble walking. It affects the nerves and can affect the hands. But the symptoms can be treated in many ways and none were reason enough for me to decide against having a child. Others may feel differently and that is their choice.

In my experience, CMT has been manageable, and it was mild as I was growing up. That may have affected my decision to have a child. If my family members or I had experienced more severe symptoms, perhaps I would have felt differently.

Some issues concern my son and me, but they are mild. For example, his ankles roll easily, and sometimes he has horrible leg cramps. But those can be treated with relative ease. Will his symptoms worsen as he gets older? Most likely. I can only hope that he deals with any new complications with humor and grace, the way he does now.

I have no regrets about deciding to have a child. My son is a kind, capable, intelligent, and thriving teenager who does not let anything slow him down. He doesn’t let his symptoms prevent him from fully participating in life. In some ways, he is more empathetic to others with disabilities because he knows the daily struggles and successes within his family.

Having a child is a personal decision. It was the right one for my family and me. Knowing what I know now, I would do it again.

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Kayce A Kutch avatar

Kayce A Kutch

I don't usually leave comments, but I feel the need to share here. First and foremost, to each their own. The fact that you would still have your child is clearly what is best for you and I really respect your (our) right to those individual and personal choices, so this is really just to give another side to this. I am a 33 year old woman with CMT and having children is something that I've thought a lot about over the last few years. It has been something that I've grappled with in that I know I want to be a mom, but I also know that I would never risk passing what I have to a child that will be forced (without choice) to live with that for the rest of their lives. I do not have as severe a case as some, but I still would never put someone else through something (forever... without a cure) because it was important to me to biologically bare children. The intent is not to attack your choice, but to give voice to opposition of that choice on a forum where it feels like you might be sending the message that "without hesitation" you would put a person through a lifetime of difficulty knowing all the facts. I love that your son has a positive attitude... it's all we can do really, so my message to you both is that I hope your challenges and struggles are minimal and if not, you see the good in all of it anyway.

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Charolette Marquart avatar

Charolette Marquart

How I love this article! I have type 1c as do both of my adult children. I was dx'd at 47 and already had both of my children so there was no deciding for me. I would do it all over again! My son wants kids regardless my daughter however is on the fence. I tell both of them to leave it in God's hands. You will love that child no matter what. Thanks for the article!!

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Godspeed avatar

Godspeed

What if this was couple hundred years ago when genetic testing wasn't even available you wouldn't even be able to make a decision like that because you wouldn't know what was wrong with you or you wouldn't know you'd be able to pass it to someone do what you want in life you live free and die hard have kids don't but don't ever let no one tell you what or what not to do

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Chris avatar

Chris

I have cmt, inherited from my dad. I had a miserable childhood due to my disability. I am 58 now. I decided when I was diagnosed at age 13 that I would never put a child through the same. I'm no means the worst sufferer. But why? Why would anyone think it's okay to perpetuate disease?

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