If Lessons Are Gifts, CMT Handed Me a Few

I was looking at some Christmas decorations at a store the other day, a set of oversized, faux gift-wrapped boxes complete with bows and lights. And they reminded me of something I had heard before about disabilities, including Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease (CMT): For those of us affected by disability, we can consider it a gift.

I don’t know if I quite feel that way. And I’m afraid that such statements can sometimes minimize the pain and hurt many in the disability community face. Or it can act as a cudgel to silence the voice of those trying to advocate for greater accessibility.

Nonetheless, I’m at a point in my life where I can recognize some of the lessons that living with CMT teaches me. And although I don’t know if I would call CMT a gift, the opportunity to grow and learn from CMT is something I now appreciate.

So, if I consider such ongoing lessons as gifts, following are three of the several “gifts” the creator has offered by giving me the perspective of someone disabled:

Humility

In kindergarten and first grade, relay races were a frequent gym class activity. And every year, we’d have a mile run. I’d typically start out strong, but in the end, I’d inevitably end up pulling up the rear — oftentimes with scuffed knees.

It’s hard to have an inflated ego with such a history — at least when it comes to physical ability. However, throughout my life, I’ve had a bit of a stubborn and prideful streak nonetheless. But I’m learning to lean on the lessons from, frankly, being physically weak.

My natural tendency is for my physical weakness to lead to more weakness due to pride — I don’t want to fail, so for much of my life, I didn’t try.

However, I’m continuing to learn, and I appreciate the importance of asking for help and being creative with solutions. Living with CMT demands such things. And I hope I can continue to learn to apply these lessons in every aspect of my life.

Acclimation with uncertainty

This has certainly been a year filled with uncertainties and awkwardness due to everything going on right now. I feel like I’m constantly recalibrating my actions and feelings based on new information and what’s going on around me.

In some regards, it’s not unlike the uncertainty of living with CMT. I’ve learned to acclimate myself to new CMT symptoms, symptoms that have become more severe, and a growing list of things I used to be able to do but can do no longer.

I don’t think this experience has necessarily made this year easier for me, but I’m finding that in my mind, I’m approaching a lot of the uncertainty that characterizes this year in a similar way I approach my CMT.

I take comfort in the unchanging aspects that define who I am — and they aren’t my physical abilities. I also try to focus on simply doing what I can and “doing the next right thing.”

Empathy

I’m not going to argue that CMT automatically makes me a more empathetic person, because empathy, like everything else here, is something I continue to struggle with.

However, CMT has caused me pain that many folks cannot see by just looking at me. I’m a disabled person that walks invisible in an environment that isn’t always built for folks such as me and many others.

And this point of reference gives me a basis to try to understand how hard it must be for others, given the pain and injustice that they experience. And not just in the realm of ability.

I recognize how far we’ve come, and I also see how far we have to go to raise awareness and give people voices.

Again, I don’t want to glorify CMT or celebrate the struggle of living with a disability. However, I want to take advantage of opportunities to grow — to turn troubles into training, and knowledge into wisdom. And in that regard, living with CMT has helped me learn quite a bit.

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