Learning to Actively Pursue the Light at the End of the Tunnel
Many folks are familiar with the saying that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. It’s a nice expression that refers to the fact that unfortunate circumstances are often temporary. But author and retired Navy SEAL David Goggins writes in his book, “Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds,” that the light at the end of the tunnel doesn’t always appear if your eyes have adjusted to the darkness.
I picked up Goggins’ book, which is part memoir and part self-help, a few weeks ago after four people recommended it to me, including a few folks in the Charcot-Marie-Tooth (CMT) community. While I ultimately didn’t love the book and am incapable of wholeheartedly recommending it, Goggins’ addendum to the famous tunnel imagery resonated with me and continues to ring true as I learn to adapt and remain hopeful while living with CMT.
As I’ve written before, I’ve known that CMT was and would continue to be part of my life since I was very young. For a long time, I was fairly fatalistic in my approach to this chronic condition. Oftentimes, I felt that CMT just sucked and would continue to affect my life, largely for the worse, and there was little I could do about it.
If you were to compare my fatalistic attitude toward CMT to a dark tunnel, it would be fair to say my eyes had adjusted to that darkness. I was too complacent with being passive in my approach to managing CMT.
Sure, I did physical therapy and some exercises specifically geared toward CMT as a youngster, but that was mostly because my parents sent me to physical therapy and I had little say in the matter. My heart wasn’t really in it.
It’s truly tempting to settle and passively accept tough times — to buckle up and just go along for the ride. Goggins describes this as being “numb” and “going through the motions.”
However, in the past few years, I’ve tried to be more active by seeking the light in all situations. And I’ve learned that finding hope and actualizing a better future takes faith, a curious mind, and some effort.
After all, we need faith to picture a better future because none of us knows what the future has in store, and there are many things we may not fully understand. I don’t want to advocate for blind faith, but that’s why it’s important to remain curious and seek out new information and reasons to keep hope alive.
In the context of CMT, this has meant continuing to learn more about diet, exercise, and developments in our understanding of this disease in addition to reading perspectives and narratives from others in the CMT community as well as the larger disability community. I pursue hope by doing such things.
And of course, it’s important to act on faith and knowledge gained. That means investing in the future, practicing self-care, going to the gym, eating well, making connections, and following and supporting promising research.
Indeed, having faith and maintaining hope takes some work. When I’m in a dark tunnel, whether triggered by CMT or not, it’s important to continue moving forward. Being numb and passive can make that dark tunnel a bit longer, and so can isolation and withdrawal. It’s important to remember not to let your eyes adjust to the darkness and not to simply wish for the light, but to actively pursue it.
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